(Nearly) 100 ideas to spice up your sexuality
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(Nearly)
100 ideas to spice up your sexuality
I. 10 ways to do it with words
1. Look into each other's eyes, face to face, for 2 (real) minutes.
Yes, it's long, but it improves your connection (and your passion).
2. Read each other's cards. The French Discultons game allows you to create dialogue without taboos.
3. Ask your partner to describe you. What they like about you, what they would like to touch.
4. Still face to face, perhaps holding hands? Describe THE sex session. The one that would make you shiver like never before.
5. Create a playlist together that makes you feel sexy. A suggestion? Ariana Grande's ‘34+35’, Madonna's ‘My Love's a Revolver’ or, for an eclectic groove, listen to Gapianne's Sex Mix playlist.
6. Name three things you've already done together that you loved, and see if you agree.
7. Decide on a code word that means ‘I want you’, to slip discreetly into a social context, so you can slip away like teenagers.
8. Swipe ‘like’ or ‘dislike’ through the list of fantasies suggested by the getofficial app: no need to feel embarrassed, the app only tells you about each other's fantasies if there's a match!
9. Share a memory of a film that turned you on.
10. Describe how you feel during: ‘I'm soaking wet,’ ‘I love it when you touch me like that.’
II. 10 ways to do it with your fingertips
1. Gently run your fingertips over your partner's exposed skin: you can also blow softly, for example on the nape of the neck, to make them shiver.
2. Gently massage the inside of their hands and when the massage has relaxed them a little, suggest bringing that hand onto your body.
3. Fully clothed, ask your partner to touch the sensitive areas of your body: your lower back, your waist, to trace the outline of your breasts with their finger?
4. Guide your lover's hand to where you want to be touched, or suggest that they do the same.
5. Grab their bum and ask how they like to be touched there: it's a very sensitive area and pleasant to touch if done right.
6. Don't underestimate the sensations that can be aroused by tapping your lover's body with your fingertips.
7. Lie down back to back and caress each other as best you can: the difficulty makes you creative, and you are not allowed to turn around until... one of you can't take it anymore.
8. Lie face to face and look into each other's eyes. No kissing or looking away, only your hands are allowed to explore (feel free to laugh if you find the situation amusing, complicity can be an aphrodisiac... mind-blowing).
9. Each other's warmth can raise the temperature as quickly as movement: suggest that your partner simply place their hand on your genitals while kissing you. No moving until you ask them to.
10. Variation on the previous suggestion: place a hand on your stomach at the same time and breathe deeply (without kissing this time). Take advantage of this relaxation to admire your partner's beauty.
III. 10 ways to do it with your lingerie
1. The bloomer style isn't the most common when it comes to sexy lingerie, but if it's made of silky fabric, it's perfect for gentle stimulation over your knickers.
2. Go for a sheer bra and discreet thong, like the Coeur solitaire set, which leaves the spotlight on the person who really matters: you.
3. A lingerie bodysuit is a sensual surprise when you take off your clothes: it covers and reveals at the same time. Our favourite from the private line is called Mise à nu and hides a breast that we can't wait to see.
4. A slit dress that reveals suspenders and stockings always has an effect.
5. Choose a song from your sexy playlist (idea no. 5 on this list) and slowly strip off your clothes.
6. Ask them to remove your lingerie as gently as possible. You can make them start over every time they get too eager.
7. Ask him to remove your lingerie without using hands. To make this sensual, he'll need to do it slowly.
8. Hide or embroider a little note, such as ‘I want you’, and let him find your surprise.
9. Don't take it off: lingerie can be pushed aside...
10. Don't wear any (and tell them).
IV. 10 ways to do it with your tongue
1. Yes, this number won't go in the direction you think: but sharing an aphrodisiac infusion can give you ideas.
2. Still on the subject of food, chocolate and chilli are known aphrodisiacs, so perhaps incorporating them regularly into your meals could spark a little fire? Sharing a square of chocolate can also be a good idea.
3. Ginger is also an aphrodisiac: a cocktail with or without alcohol will get your spirits sparkling.
4. Now let's talk about how to use your tongue: don't underestimate the power of an intense kiss. It's no coincidence that kissing (in 16 variations) is featured in the Kama Sutra.
5. Run an ice cube over your partner's lips and then lick it: the hot-cold effect will send shivers down their spine.
6. There are several ways to position your tongue to create different sensations. Alternate between using the flat of your tongue and the tip, tracing the contours of your lover's body.
7. Offer to let them lick your fingers gently, and why not let your lubricated hand slide down?
8. The inner thighs are extremely sensitive, so lick or offer to let them lick this soft skin that is too often forgotten.
9. Consult together and try out the expert techniques on the OMGyes website for using your tongue (or teaching your partner how to use theirs).
10. Yes, it's a bit technical, but did you know that you can wear a vibrating ring on your tongue?
V. 10 ways to do it by text message
1. Use urgent, passionate words to get your partner to come home faster and make the wait exciting.
2. Send the ever-effective ‘Come on, get out of my head and into my bed’.
3. Use your commute home from work to detail the ways you'd like your partner to kiss and seduce you tonight.
4. Too shy to try role-playing? Be bold, hide behind your screen and play at becoming someone else for one night.
5. Send a photo of your shopping basket on an online site, filled with sexy lingerie or a toy, specifying ‘I just bought all this, can you imagine me in it?’.
6. When words are no longer enough, try sending messages that are 100% emojis 🍑🍑.
7. Improvise a sensual photo shoot; the following tips will guide you on the best way to do it. However, here's a little tip that will save you a lot of trouble: don't show your face.
8. Play with angles: take selfies, face the mirror, shoot from below while lying down, standing up, kneeling, in profile, from behind, with a wide angle, focusing on a specific part of your body... Experiment, move around and use the self-timer.
9. Dim the lights and close the curtains for a flattering blur, or, on the contrary, shine bright light on yourself for a luminous body.
10. To strike a pose, follow TikToker @samanthagraffam, who offers a whole range of poses to show yourself off to your best advantage.
VI. 10 ways to do it without contact
1. What if distance was actually a good way to spice up your routine? The more unbearable the wait becomes, the more passionate the reunion will be.
2. To turn up the heat, why not read each other some erotic stories?
3. Whisper words over the phone. Guide each other's hands from a distance, express aloud what you're feeling, what you're doing, what you like.
4. Dear love, how about we forget about our phones and take a step back in time? Write words of love on a piece of paper and, if you're feeling frisky, spice up your letter with a few hot words.
5. Describe to your partner how you would like them to touch their body, while keeping a reasonable distance.
6. Give them the remote control: a remote-controlled sex toy is an excellent tool for communication and excitement.
7. Record a voice memo full of suggestive whispers and sighs.
8. Offer to give your partner a ‘strip card’: they can ask you to remove your underwear at any time, and you'll have to spend the rest of the day without it.
9. Send them a revealing Polaroid photo in the post.
10. Decide on a specific time to send each other a short message describing, lovingly and precisely, what you would like to touch on each other and how.
VII. 10 ways to do it with a toy
1. Buy them together to build anticipation for putting them to good use (and talk about your preferences, desires, and limits).
2. Anything your fingers can caress can be rediscovered with a vibrating toy: the Puissante spinning top is our favourite for awakening erogenous zones.
3. Don't neglect to caress the soft skin on the inside of the thigh, an irresistible game of impatience.
4. Clitoral stimulators can also explore your lips and nipples or those of your partner.
5. Hold a vibrator between your genitals to stimulate each other to the rhythm of your movements: mind-blowing.
6. Remember the game of spin the bottle? If you have several erotic objects, place them in a circle and spin a bottle in the centre to decide what you'll use next.
7. Choose a code name for your sex toys: just say ‘I'll make lasagne tonight’ and your partner will think of anything but dinner.
8. Send a photo of a sex toy and ask, ‘Which one should I use while I wait for you?’
9. Give your partner control of a clitoral stimulator for a 69 that's anything but ordinary.
10. Put your playlist to the test by trying out a sex toy that vibrates to the beat of your music.
VIII. 10 ways to make it slide
1. Soft lighting, gentle music, divinely scented oil: massage can be a great way to start a romantic moment for two. If the oil you choose has an enchanting scent, that's a bonus!
2. Begin massaging the upper body, starting with the neck, then the back, shoulders and arms, finishing with the extremities. Be gentle and patient.
3. Focus on areas of tension, but especially on the most erogenous zones: the nipples, neck, ears and feet.
4. Find the lubricant that's right for you. The most important thing to remember is that if you use sex toys or condoms, you should avoid oil- or silicone-based lubricants (for sex toys) and opt for water-based ones instead.
5. Can you guess what your lips could do if you applied a thin layer of lubricant to them? Glide over your loved one's body like never before.
6. Your nose too, for that matter.
7. Use a little too much lubricant. Or a lot too much. Slide with and against each other, play with it.
8. To really immerse yourself in the moment, three letters: C.B.D. This hemp derivative has relaxing properties: and when it slips into your lubricant, the temperature rises, rises, rises...
9. To make your body tingle, you can also try a hot-cold gel: electric.
10. Dip your fingertip in chocolate sauce and use their body (be careful to avoid the genitals) as a whiteboard. Write a word, lick it off to erase it, and start again.
IX. 10 ways to do it elsewhere
1. Room service? Champagne, please! A change of scenery can bring new ideas. Book a hotel room and let yourself be guided.
2. Wouldn't the mountain of cushions adorning your sofa be ideal for raising you to new heights, supporting your lower back and discovering orgasmic sensations?
3. One step to be close to each other, two steps to let your hands wander, three steps for one to kneel with their face between the other's legs: stairs are great, aren't they?
4. You may have already explored the shower thoroughly, but it's always good to go back and play with the water pressure.
5. In front of a mirror.
6. At an event where you are guests, slip away from the crowd, kiss your partner and let one hand slide under their clothes.
7. The perfect place to test your desire to play with food is simply to suggest the kitchen.
8. Walking shoes aren't sexy? But the view is beautiful after your hike, and it's up to you to let the forest shelter your sighs.
9. Counterintuitively, water is not a very good lubricant, but that doesn't mean you have to give up on the idea of getting frisky at the pool.
10. A tightly closed cubicle, wandering hands and a swimsuit that's just the right amount of revealing.
X. 10 ways to do it with more than two people
1. This is one of the most common fantasies that couples think about. But for these last few tips, there are four important points that must not be overlooked:
2. Communicate about your desires to each other and to the other person(s) involved.
3. Discuss your fears and limits beforehand, and make sure everyone consents regularly during your lovemaking. If you're not comfortable, you can take a break, laugh it off and start again, or just cuddle.
4. Be mindful of the person or people you are adding to the mix; they are not sex toys for your couple, but guests invited to share in your intimacy.
5. Remember to protect yourself from STIs, change condoms or dental dams when you change partners, or get tested for STIs beforehand.
6. Once these points are in place, consider establishing a code for you and your partner, a little something that means ‘I am here with you and I love you’: a kiss on the forehead, for example.
7. Once again, do not be afraid to laugh: the experience may be a little chaotic, a little experimental, but you are there to share a good time and new sensations.
8. Suggest to one of your guests, ‘I'd like my partner to do this to you, would you like that?’ This is the best way to make sure everyone feels comfortable and that the partner in question is excited with anticipation.
9. Play with lubricant between massage and intimate lubrication so that your skin connects smoothly.
10. Share a little debriefing tea together because, after all, it's crazy what just happened to you.